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[quote=Anonymous]OP, where is your DH?  You need to call him stat and have him call his parents to let them know this is unacceptable and that they will talk with him as soon as they get home.  If they ask, he is to say that you just called to tell DH they had arrived, and you have nothing to do with what he is saying.  You cannot be the bad guy in this at all, because that is what they are trying to accomplish.  By being outrageous they hope they can push you to be rude. Do NOT fall for it.

Also, I agree with the other poster.   Say clearly, "it's nice to see you but I wish we had discussed this in advance so that we could have enjoyed a planned visit with some fun activities."  Then go about your normal routine, invent some errands (that they cannot join you on but are essential, perhaps a haircut, doctor's appt, etc) and stay out of the house.  Apologize when you get home, ideally after DH has arrived and given them a stern talking to.

They should leave the next morning at the latest when DH after talks with them or ideally that day (I only suggest the next morning in case they are older and the drive is long).

Your DH MUST have your back on this.  Make it clear to him that it will not be possible to live your lives with your in laws threatening to stop by for three days at a time with 0 minutes notice.

And OP the whole thing sucks. What terrible nasty aggressive people your in laws are.  I'm sorry.
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