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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Here is the kicker. His mom said thanks for letting us invite ourselves. Then I said nothing and just smiled. And she said don't smerk I know you don't like it. And I just smiled again. What am I supposed to say? My DH and older son go to work and school so I what have to entertain them? I have no real plans but now i feel like being gone but my 2.5 year old needs to nap. They were just here for 4 nights in December and my parents were here two weeks ago. I wasn't planning on having anyone here for a few months! [/quote]

You should say something. Like "Mary, last night when you thanked us for letting you invite yourselves and I wanted to let you know that although it's wonderful to see you and JimBob, we would really love advance notice. Plus, I would feel terrible if you showed up only to find out we were out of town for the weekend or entertaining other guests and didn't have a spare room for you two, etc. So going forward, would you let us know when you'd like to visit, so we can agree on the dates beforehand?" [/quote]

Something like that--Though it should also come from DH.

And why the heck are you letting them stay two nights?  "Gosh, we really weren't prepared for this visit.  You can stay tonight, but we'll have to ask you to clear out by x time tomorrow and check in with us next time rather than just show up."

Also: Your MIL is testing you.  She knows you don't like it, eh?  She knows she screwed up…make it clear that it's not ok, or something similar is likely to happen again.[/quote]

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