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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As an only myself, the reason I would never choose to have an only is not the childhood period (when as others have said, I learned to relate well to adults, enjoyed a great relationship with parents, and developed very strong relationships with friends and their families, and vice versa, to "fill in " for no siblings).  The issue is instead what happens when you become an adult and deal with aging parents.  Being the only outlet and support for them is difficult, both practically and simply in terms of having another person (besides spouse) to talk to about decisions.  It can be a lot to put onto a single person, and then when parents die, no family left other than your own kids.  Just something else to think about.  It definitely induced me to have two children, and we are lucky because now as young adults they are best friends and supports for each other.[/quote]

My husband is the middle child of three. His father died suddenly and DH handled all the death and after death arrangements.  Several years later when his mother was diagnosed with a terminal and debilitating disease, DH cared for his mother with no support from either sibling. He says he was always grateful that his mother was kind and thus had good girlfriends because they helped him a plenty.  Btw, when his mom died, his siblings were there for the funeral and the reading of the will.  I still despise his sister to this day, and have no contact with her. There is no guarantee that siblings will be there for each other when you age.

I too am from a family of three children, and we did work together when my mom became seriously ill. So, I guess your chances are 50/50. [/quote]

You think from your personal experience that having siblings (2, 3, 4 or more) have a 50% chance of having no contact with them in adulthood and doing 100% everything for your parents while the other siblings do nothing?  Really now.  What a stupid generalization.  Siblings are extremely important and I don't know any friends, cousins and my own spouse, and siblings who don't keep contact with their siblings.  So could I say it is 100% chance?  No but I know the number is on the smaller side and no where near 50%.  
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