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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree with previous posters. Read Unexpected Legacy of Divorce - it is eye-opening and concludes that children that grow up in unhappy marriages are better off in the long-run than this whose parents divorced. I come from divorce and work in early childhood and divorces are ENORMOUSLY damaging to children. IMHO divorce is far more damaging than a bad marriage, although a bad marriage is no picnic for kids either. Best advice is to try harder - and surrender some key ground to your s/o in order to show him the way to surrendering ground. You re not losing - just paving the way and setting a good example of what kind of relationship you want to have with him. He is human and doing the best he can - and frankly - you may be wrong about some things you are fighting about. Let it go - love him - talk to him - and compromise. Your children will be MUCH MUCH better for it.[/quote]

NP, and thanks for posting this.  My marriage is pretty shitty right now - both adultery and addiction, both going back many years, only became apparent to me in the past few months - and if not for our child we would already be separated.  I am trying to fight through this for my child, because I still feel it's what's best for him... but some days it's really, really hard for me to remember why I'm doing this.  Thank you for the reminder.[/quote]

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