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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ex DH needs to stop telling you what GF is pissed about. Full stop. That is between THEM and it doesn't benefit you or concern you at all what she gets aggravated about. Those are his balls to juggle and I would tell him so. "Whatever GF gets upset about and says to you, please don't share with me. After all, she prefers we only discuss DD. Your relationship is not my business." Not your circus, not your monkeys. [/quote]

I completely agree with this approach.  Your ex is feeding the drama.  Tell him that if there are specific actions that would make DD's life easier or better you can discuss them, but that your conversations need to focus on DD.  Stick with this, although don't repeat it often, just don't engage and switch the topic to DD and some issue you need to deal with.  Be polite to everyone, including girlfriend, ex FIL, although not overly friendly. Rise above.  I think if you stop feeding ex's need for attention about his new girlfriend (and perhaps new girlfriend's insecurity as well) and just act mature, things will get better.  Not everyone comes into things as mature as they should be, but in a situation like this where disengagement is not an option you just need to rise above as long as things are going well for DD.

Good luck -- you sound like an amazing mom and person.[/quote]

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