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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP Here - I have certainly received my comeuppance here today, which is fine.  The dinner was more of a "wouldn't it just be more convenient for the foreign cousins (with 4 kids) - and our kids -  if it was at a house instead of a restaurant" and me saying "I guess I can make it work so long as I don't have to cook for 15 people on the day after XMAS" as opposed to a big invitation.  But no matter.  [b]Honest question, though, isn't it unusual for my in laws to invite other family members to our Christmas celebration anyway?[/b]  I mean I would never visit them and inform them I was bringing extra people.  I feel like it's akin to her inviting us to have Thankgiving with them, and me announcing that I would also be bringing my parents, my sister, and six friends, and then expecting her to either cook or coordinate dinner for 8 nights for people she barely knows.  Or am I wrong about this too?  Does accepting monetary help during my husband's unemployment (during which no one wanted my DH to have to go out of his way to actually care for the kids - hence the help with childcare) mean I am now the personal caterer for their extended family gatherings?    [/quote]

OP, I really think you need to consider this from your MIL's perspective. You told her it's her year, she only gets that every other year. You tell her you don't want to fly because you have young kids. She wants to spend it with other family, but can't host or you won't come. Yes, she could tell them no, she can't see them until next year, but maybe she is using them as a buffer as some pp's suggested. It seems to me she really is trying to do the best she can under the stipulations you give her. Just think about it.[/quote]

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