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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you are not an asshole, a horrible person, a bitch or a princess.  You just sound tired.  I recommend you stuff both boys into the stroller and walk very briskly to the nearest playground while your DH watches football or has a run or whatever.  Then switch off.  DH takes them to the mall to play with the train table at the toy store.  Or, you have a family outing to get the wiggles out, then follow up with videos for the boys.  Also, make heavy use of TV for the boys in general.

I had the same - my ILs AND my own parents were veeeery reluctant to ever take on any child watching.  My husband and I have never been offered any childcare, nights out, or weekends away, and we never will be! We realized this, adjusted, accepted.  Now we laugh about it.  [/quote]

NP - Team OP here. She sounds tired and I don't blame her one bit. It is never a vacation with little ones, just someplace else where routines are disrupted, things are easier like at home where you have childproofed sections. So what she is doing is much harder. If the in-laws want to relax on vacation, then they might have to face not seeing the grandkids. Grandkids are chaos. I would just try out the requests and if they step up to help, vacationing with them could work out. If not, you may just have to tell them you're staying home for a few years. [/quote]

Yes, tell them they can take their[b] pre planning , bedroom, food, early dinner reservations[/b] and shove it because you need a vacation . No, wait, you deserve a vacation 
Then finish up with threatening to withhold the grandkids since they didn't do enough for you 
Sounds like nothing could go wrong with that winner ![/quote]

None of that amounts to diddly squat when you are exhausted. I have little ones and would rather stay home than do this. And there are nice ways to say that you can't make these kind of outings with little ones. Don't have to be nasty like you. Some of us are very diplomatic. I just want OP to know that it's OK to feel how she feels and it's OK to ask for help and it's OK to can it next year.[/quote]

Huh? Read the original post . It was one early dinner and she said she appreciated it . Don't make things up [/quote]

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