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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. Yes, I'm anxiety-ridden!  But for the PP who said her ILs live 10 minutes away, that's actually my dream. Then she wouldn't STAY with us, live in my house and whine about what a hardship it was to fly all the here and how she must stay for at least 3 weeks to make it worth her while. You are in a completely different situation so please understand that.

Part of the problem is that I don't really see how I can credibly say that a week long stay is too much, that we have to see them less.

[b]DH does side with them alot when they are actually in our house - he will volunteer to drive them separately or we end up not going or some other compromise.[/b][/quote]

There's your problem right there.  This is parenting (and relationship) 101: you can disagree with your spouse in private, but with anyone else - kids, parents, etc. - you are a united front.  So if there is stuff that's important to you you need to convey that to DH and push the issue of him supporting you on it.  But ultimately important or not he shouldn't undermine you in front of anyone, including his parents.

And for some of the other stuff, you just have to let the crazy go.  It's not about you, it's about her, so try to just let it roll off your back.  Concede her points without conceding your position.  For example, when complaining about the hardship of flying 'I know, and it's great you do it so the kids can spend time with you.' [conceding her point about the difficulty without conceding your position that 7 days is your outer limit.][/quote]

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