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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Personally, I think it's because taking the meds amounts to admitting their child has actual issues and just isn't brilliant and bored and if they teacher just realized their kid's brilliance, blah, blah, blah. 
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I think parents who rely on meds as their first option are lazy and aren't up to parenting a creative, smart kid with behavior challenges. [/quote]

I am an adult with ADD whose mother had a sanctimonious smug attitude just like yours. Unfortunately for me and your kid, ADD is a neurological condition,  not an excess of creativity or intelligence, and no amount of super sanctimommy "parenting" will rewire the brain. Would you try to "parent" the diabetes out of your kid?

Medications have completely changed my life and I will never forgive my mom for prioritizing her sanctimony over my need to function. But hey, she was able to tell the other mommies exactly what you've said above... Hope it was worth it for her.[/quote]

YES, YES, YES.  Me too x1000.[/quote]

I'm glad things are working out for you and obviously I don't know whether your mother "prioritized her sanctimony" over your need to function.

But as to the general issue it ought to be recognized that there is another side to these choices.  Two points:
1) Changing one's brain chemistry with pharmaceuticals is a very serious step, and 
2) Adverse side effects of medications are often not fully understood until decades after their beneficial effects are.

I have a nephew who was put on meds in childhood and over time and sustained use his personality tangibly changed to become much more negative, he has developed a lot of GI issues and a persistent ringing in his ears.  He blames the meds for this (rightly or wrongly) and is just as angry with his parents as you are with your mother, for putting him on drugs when he was too young to object.

Just as you feel your mother was prioritizing your sanctimony over your needs, there are plenty of parents who worry that by putting their kids on meds they are doing what is convenient for the adult world rather than what is necessarily in the best interests of the child.

I'm sure parents make mistakes both ways, but if they made the wrong call it doesn't necessarily mean they weren't doing their level best for the child.[/quote]

No, no, no. You are being far too reasonable. It's against the rules of DCUM to say that every parent has to weigh the cost-benefit analysis for their child and decide what works best.  If someone isn't giving their child meds, clearly that mom is doing it wrong for her own sick emotional need to feel like she is a better mom than PP. That can only be cured by bashing any parent who doesn't choose meds for their kid.[/quote]

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