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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, if your in-laws always get Thanksgiving, your family should always get Christmas.  That's what we do -- I'm Jewish, DH is Christian, his family always gets Christmas, so we spend our Thanksgivings with my family.

And I'd try to get your DH on board with at least making room for you: "DH, I know how much you love spending T-day with your family, but it's so different from what I'm used to that I feel like an outsider.  Can you guys make a little room for my traditions -- can you ask your MIL to let me bring a dish to serve during Thanksgiving dinner and/or some wine to share?"  [/quote]

OP here. Yes my family feels like they should always get Christmas because his family gets Easter/Thanksgiving and birthday celebrations. DH and his family don't see it that way. Everyone pretty much wants Christmas. It makes my family very bitter.[/quote]

OP, "everybody" doesn't get a vote.  This is between you and your DH.  You need to talk it out with your DH and come up with a fairer balance.  If it's going to your family for 2 Xmases, and then his for 1, that's fine.  If you just take the leave every other year and do Thanksgiving with your family, that's fine too.  But as it is now, you (not your family, not DH's family) are not happy with the arrangement, so it needs to be reopened.  You BOTH need to be happy here.[/quote]

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