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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]OP stop letting them rob you of your holidays. I live away from my family but near my DH's. I spent the first seven or so Christmas/Thanksgivings with his family.[/b] They are bitter alcoholics who just spend the holidays drunk and pushing booze. My DH would drink and turn into a angry person also. After so many years of this I had enough. I refuse to spend any holidays with them. When I wad a kid my family was poor but the holidays were about getting together and making good simple food. I wanted my kids to be only around sober loving family members. [/quote]

You sound like you need your own traditions.  Their traditions will always be lame, either in reality, or in comparison to being with your own people.  Especially if the IL's are lame, too.  Most of us go through this if we live any distance from our own, unfortunately.  For those of you who have your family nearby - instead of inwardly or outwardly gloating - be truly grateful, you have absolutely no idea.

OP, you are not alone.  Holidays without your close-knit family is brutal.  You want the warmth that you grew up with, I get it.  It sucks when your favorite time of year becomes your least favorite time of year. [For me, this has happened with the holidays and also with summertime.  We have to cut into our expensive camp and disrupt our summer because MIL insists on planning their one week vacation around SIL's and her grown children, who go for maybe two days.]  My IL's are a shallow, nitpicky, critical bunch.  They can't wait to ask me what I got for Christmas, as if it is the Hope Diamond, or something (not even close). But I digress. I'm commiserating, and wish I had better suggestions for you.

You need to do what makes you happy.  If it means keeping your family home and starting your own traditions, so be it.  [/quote]

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