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[quote=Anonymous]You need to end things with him, OP. And by 'things' yes I mean even the friendship. I won't take the 'preachy, how old are you' stance that some other posters have, but in a way, I get where they are coming from, too. As someone with ~10 more years life/relationship experience than you, I can promise you that the general sentiment we're all typing here is exactly what you would type out on the same forum, in response to the same question, 10 years from now.

This person has been the significant relationship in your life. That's why it's hard to let go of. That's OK - it means that you're loyal, develop deep attachments. It means you're emotionally normal.

That said, the situation has gone far beyond what's healthy. Think about how you'd feel if it was you BF (new fiance) asking some ex for pictures, etc., regardless of their history. You'd feel crappy, and question marrying him. She should, too. Not because you and he are meant to be, but because he's not ready (due to either immaturity, or just a lack of moral character) to be a husband. Don't kid yourself thinking he's only like this because he's with her, and if he was with you, he'd be different. He chose to be with her, and he chooses this behaviour. If he was really unsure about her, they could break up, or just not get engaged.

In a nutshell: He's shown you who he is. At the very least, it's someone immature. At the most, it's someone with poor morals/character. Don't feel bad because he's marrying someone else - in these circumstances, it's hardly going to be a marriage full of love and promise. They'll likely be divorced in 3-5 years, if they even get to the ceremony. Just end this cycle now so that you can move on to a type of person you haven't met yet - one who sorts their affairs before moving on, doesn't lie, etc. I promise you, they're out there.
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