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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I actually get the authoritative argument about not making them say please and thank you and this is from the "May I please have" poster.  We have our kids always asking nicely now not by making them but by the response they get from us when they ask in different ways.  They have simply learned that if they ask the wrong way, people are less likely to respond positively and when they ask, "May I please have," the response is more positive -- even when the answer is still no.  I was forced to say please and thank you as a kid and it made me not want to say it -- same with sorry.  You want your kid to want to say these things.[/quote]

But before all this happens, you have to prompt your kid to say "please." It takes a long time for some kids. If your kid demands a cup of water, and you just stand there staring at him, how's he going to know what you want him to say? So, for many many months you prompt your kid by saying "say please." At age two, I still have to remind my son to say please (or remind him to have good manners). What am I going to do next time he says "Mommy! I need water!!" in a demanding voice? Would you consider it too authoritarian for me to tell him "you need to ask nicely and say please?" [/quote]

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