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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm a woman, and I think I know what you are talking about.

But I don't think it's innate to women.  I think it's learned behavior.

I could write a long post about how girls are sort of indoctrinated into this kind of cliquish mentality/behavior in a way that most men aren't.

I say "most" men, because I think men can be that way, too, especially if they were raised and/or spent a lot of time around cliquish women.

All humans have an innate sense of survival/competitiveness.  How they are raised shapes that instinct and determines how they manifest/respond to it.

If girls grow up in environments where cliques dominate and the biggest way to gain acceptance/attention is to participate in the cattiness, then that is how they will be as adults.

If boys grow up in that environment, then they will turn out the same way.

Why it seems to be mostly women is because I think boys are allowed more leeway in letting out their aggression/competitiveness/energy in physical ways.  There is strong pressure on girls, however, to have a certain outward appearance of delicate.  And then in groups of girls, a lot of the bonding happens via talking and gossiping.

With boys, I think there is more encouragement to bond in teams and in physical ways -- not just playing sports, but doing things.  It doesn't even have to be sports.  My brother grew up in a group where bonding happened over computers and games and programming.

This is all anecdotal.  And I know these are generalizations.  Not all women grew up in this way.  But I do think that in very broad strokes, there is some accuracy to all of this.
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