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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I love mine because she gave me two amazing, wonderful, loving grandchildren.  And she is a good mother to them.  She however isn't the woman (and hence the life) I had envisioned for my son.  I look past a lot because its none of my business but one thing that really gets me is how she puts so much financial pressure on my son.  They have more than enough money but to her they always need a little more.  I feel like she chases after some different vain goal every 5 years and than once its attained its on to the next.  [/quote]

How do you know about the financial pressure and the vain goals? Do they really discuss these things with you? [/quote]

NP here. My DH has a colleague with this problem. They married in their early thirties and it has been non-stop financial pressure from her since then. She had one child and wanted another so she went through several rounds of IVF. Once they stopped, she got pregnant. She then insisted they renovate their 2 bedroom to a 3 bedroom with a third bath and use an interior decorator. Once it was finished, she wanted a new, large home in a more prestigious area., guilting him that the kids needed more room while they were young. Then she had a boob job because having kids made them droopy, in addition to her usual botox. The kids are attending private kinder and elementary at $25K+ each. She didn't like driving the minivan they bought two years earlier and now has a BMW SUV. She bought him an expensive watch early so he would be sure to gift her an expensive piece of jewelry on time. The guy has frequent migraines, has asked for two raises in a year and looks constantly stressed.  [/quote]

How do you supposedly know all of this?  Are you sure this isn't made up by someone watching their backs, in case the wife asks for a divorce down the road?  It's not unheard of!  How do you know she doesn't have money of her own, possibly left to her (which would not be his, because it would have been an inheritance - he might be angry about this).

I have a coworker who complains about money all the time.  He doesn't earn enough for himself, but he tries to blame his wife - who has all sorts of qualifications.  Of course, he could have married the materialistic asian mani/pedi secretary - to be worse off.   Wouldn't that be a trip? Except it would never happen.   :shock:

Some men go off at the mouth for attention.  You can't believe everything you hear.  I had a boss whose business partner would nag him until he bad mouthed his wife.  The business partner was so jealous and had no idea how to land a girlfriend (never mind a wife).  Finally, someone married the business partner for his money, and he backed off.

Some people are bullies and need a target.  They don't like to see other people happy!

MIL's are NOT immune from this. [/quote]

We know about it because the husband talks about it at work constantly and the wife talks about it at parties.  They also live nearby so we have seen all the big purchases, including the boob job. They are not private people. The wife has also not worked since the first child was born 8 years ago. [/quote]

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