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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't understand your discomfort with divorced in-laws, blood is thicker than water, etc. Presumably you are at all times visiting either your DH's mom OR dad, right?  Honestly, you sound small-minded and kind of mean. Divorce is not easy for anyone involved, but you are the very last person who shoukd be giving your DH grief about this. You knew who his family was when you married him. Your situation is hardly unusual. My kids have four sets of grandparents, none of whom live near us or one another, and we manage to maintain good relationships with and see all of them. Mostly they visit us, since we have small kids, but we visit them too. Yeah, we don't get a lot of "vacation" vacations but that's life. It's worth it to have strong family relationships for our kids and ourselves. If you don't care about that, that's your choice, but you'd better make sure your DH is on the same page.

If you reread your post, OP, just about every  sentence is an "I don't like," "I don't want to," or an excuse of some kind. I'm sure you're a lovely person in real life, but be aware that you come across as rigid and selfish.  Be very careful or you might show that self to your DH a few too many times, and then your in-law problem will be solved bc you won't have any. [/quote]

This PP articulated almost exactly what I was thinking but couldn't put together.

I know that navigating family can be difficult sometimes and I know that sometimes DCUM looks for reasons to pile on the OP, but in this case, it does sound pretty much like you wish you had more time to see your family and feel like that means your DH shouldn't have the same feelings. Which doesn't really compute.[/quote]

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