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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Holy cow, I'm the PP with the 5ft tall 10yo and I can't believe you all think I'm a nut. I rounded down - his weight is somewhere between 100 and 115 but he only gets weighed at the peds and I was mostly trying to make the point for the PP who mentioned having a child of similar weight. Seriously, I'm not a food crazy person at all - I think I'm the last woman in Bethesda who still eats bread and my kids are probably the only ones at their MCPS school who get a cookie or two in the lunch box every day.

However, my 10yo IS overweight - not wildly, but clearly - and it would be bizarre and unhealthy if I didn't acknowledge that. The measures we've taken are probably insufficient if anything, precisely because we don't want to give him a complex. And also because we can pretty well count on the fact that he's going to grow a lot more in terms of height. Our ped's advice was not to worry about numbers on the scale; just ensure his diet is as healthy as possible and that he's getting lots of physical activity (which parents of older kids who aren't into sports will appreciate is actually not as easy as it was when they are little.)[/quote]

In your earlier post, you stated that your DS was "obese". Even if he is 5 ft & 115lbs AND small framed, that still only puts him at the high end of a healthy weight range, so there's no way he is even close to obese. You also said in his last post that he is actually "just over 5 ft", which makes it even less likely that he is even overweight, much less obese, if his weight is between 100-115.

No, none other I nor any of the PPs have seen your child in person.But your pediatrician has &, per your first post, is also telling you that your DS' s weight is nothing to worry about. Please, please listen before you give your children a distorted view of what "overweight" looks like. [/quote]

PP here, I missed the last part of your post about the pediatrician' s advice. I'm glad you are listening to it.Eating a (mostly) healthy diet & getting enough enough exercise is, of course, important for everyone, regardless of their weight.

I'd still recommend, however, that you re-evaluate your own perceptions regarding what is & isn't overweight as, giving your classification of your normal weight son as "obese",they are distorted.You don't want to, even subtly/subconsciously, pass these distortions onto your children.[/quote]

Ladies, really, don't hijack the OP's post on my account. I didn't make up the obese thing. My son had surgery at 8.5yo and it had to be split into two operations because the surgeon said he was obese. I never imagined he would be described in those terms - were so anxious for his surgery and that word threw us for a loop. We knew he'd put on weight, but - still, when I went home and looked up his stats, they did come up as obese at that time. I haven't looked since, to be honest, and as I said his ped described him as overweight but hasn't freaked out. (The ped doesn't say that his weight is nothing to worry about - he told us to see a nutritionist.)

My son is a great, awesome, wonderful kid, who has the best sense of himself of any kid I've ever seen, and I wouldn't mess with that for all the money in the world. But he cried when another kid called him fat, and I know he's heavy enough that he's uncomfortable at times. So it seems like the least I can or should do as a responsible parent is to foist an apple on him every day, and a few peas.[/quote]

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