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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I was this child.  So many permission slips forgotten.  So many times I didn't have X that everyone else had.  I would have cried the entire day.  That would have been a big deal for me.

I think you're both right.  DH is right and you are right.  Kids do need to learn how to deal with disappointment, but you already know that this was too big to let your kid process on his own.  With an impact like that, there is a whole spectrum of opportunity to teach kids how to deal with disappointment.  This is pretty much a 30-year process for that skill to really take form.  Tomorrow is a new day.

This situation is different than the ice cream cone falling on the floor or the park being closed.  We walk away from those situations.  But, this pajama thing--he's sitting there for 7 hours constantly reminded of how he stands out when everyone just tries so hard to fit in.  He can't relax and learn.  He can't walk away from the situation and then do something completely different.

This may not be true for your household, but it was sure true for mine.  My parents needed to get a hold of my school calendar and make it as important as their own schedules.  Besides sending me to school, they made few decisions about my education.  I made all of them.  They should have been my advocate.  That doesn't mean yelling at teachers when a student earns something else than an A, but it does mean that they should have known what was going on from day to day.  And, they could have taught me to

The overall lesson I got was that I refuse to miss out.[/quote]

Meant to say they could have taught me to manage my own calendar.[/quote]

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