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The most important thing for all four of you is that there needs to be a plan in place and as you noted all legal matters handled correctly in letting your landlord know of the two additions to your apartment and getting the appropriate person on the lease.

OP - you are somewhat vague on the status of the teenager.  If he is still in high school then he needs to transfer and be sure that he gets enrolled with appropriate classes.  It would be nice if DH could take an interest in him if FIL is dealing with too much himself right now.  His program status needs to be checked so that he is on target to graduate when expected.  Next issue would be if he is in a vocational sequence so he can find a job after high school or if he has any expectation of college that DH/you learn when any FAFSA and other financial aid application forms need to get done because clearly he has no resources.  Also, to be sure all college applications are done.  For the teen, he will need to be able to study and if he has extra time encourage him to find a part-time job.  If he is out of school, then he definitely should be out there looking for a job.  BIL will also qualify for health insurance through FAMIS through age 19 and should be registered.

For FIL, I would not give him till the New Year to get moving as by then he will be used to sitting and not doing.  He needs to have a routine in the house, and if he is the one at home most of the time for a while, then give him more tasks to do such as starting dinner prep or whatever.  If he is new to the area, you might try to do some research on area employment services especially for seniors with limited means.  Is there any possibility of updating his skills set with online course work or a couple of classes at the local community college?  If nothing else, he does need to get up and out to a volunteer job to keep help improve his own self-esteem, keep him engaged with folks and keep his resume somewhat active.

It would seem he does have a college degree and if he has a clean background, why not encourage him to register for substitute teaching in a couple of area high schools?  Also stores like Lowe's higher folks part-time and often offer full health benefit?

It is also true that depending on where you live FIL should go down to the local Department of Social Services to see what benefits he might qualify for including possibly job search assistance as he really could note that he is now "homeless."  Are there any susidized or low income housing that he could also get on the list for.  FIL can't be allowed to become a "couch potato."

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