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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yeah, woman here who doesn't expect anyone to defend me. Perhaps it would be different if I had married younger, or something, but I got to my mid-30s single, and had to learn to deal with situations myself.

Also, I don't need to defend against anything too often, and it's obvious from your post you see more instances where you do.  The guy who was rude to you in the store? Not saying it wouldn't hasn't happened to me, but not only would I not expect my SO to defend me, I wouldn't defend myself. Dude is being an ass, and I'm not a fan of confrontation for the sake of it, when there is nothing to be gained.

Two exceptions to this, where I would expect my SO to rise to my defense: in the case of a partner his family or friends, because in that one situation it's better him defend me than me defend myself, and in the case of a physical threat, because, let's face it - he's quite a bit bigger than me. [/quote]

I've been with my Dh since I was 20 years old and deal with situations by myself.  I'm a big girl, I wear big girl panties, and I have a big girl job. I don't need someone defending me, but I'm never in a situation where I need defending. There seems to be an odd dynamic going on with the OP.[/quote]

I'm the poster you quoted and just wanted to say I meant no slight against people who do marry early, or assumption that everyone who did would feel the same way. Was just trying to look for tangible reasons why OPs point of view might be so different than my own. Clearly, from the responses on here, most, regardless of the age at which they found their partners, feel that she is either taking offense often, or causing situations which require her to be defended, more often than most. [/quote]

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