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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, what do you *you* like to do? What hobbies and interests do you have? I have personally found a good way to meet other "mom" friends is to engage in some things that you like and you will meet others there. I found women who were the most like me and who I most wanted to be friends with when I started playing daytime tennis. My kids are a little older than yours (the oldest is now 3) and I'm really interested in staying home full-time soon, partly because I relish the opportunity to do things I'm interested in for myself as well as for my kids. I can see how staying home would be boring and isolating if I didn't have anything I wanted to do other than take care of a baby. And if you're willing to get a part-time mother's helper you may have time for something that you are interested in.

It will get better as the kid gets older.  The way you describe this does sound like staying at home is a good option for your family, and I completely concur with other posters who have suggested that going back to work is not necessarily the answer because then you will just be more exhausted doing it all.[/quote]

OP here.  Well, the problem is having the energy these days to spend on hobbies.  My child wakes up for the day at 6 am, and I take care of her until spouse comes home at 6 pm.  Once a week spouse travels for work, in which case I am taking care of my child for a few days at a time.  She also does not sleep through the night.  I wish I had more energy but I don't really have the energy for many hobbies at this time.  I don't have the energy to go out on the weekdays.  I can go out on the weekends, but my husband works some weekends, so I am taking care of my child then, and most of the moms I have met are not interested in getting together on the weekends because that is family time.  So weekends would be my only time to do hobbies.  I guess my main hobby-related interests are exercise and crafts/artistic things.  I haven't really explored taking a class or going to a gym due to the lack of energy issue.[/quote]

Yes, that completely makes sense.  I remember that phase.  It's rough.

Best advice I can give you is to do whatever it takes to get the baby to sleep through the night.  Ferber.  Something.  Having no energy will lead you to boredom in a heartbeat.

Explore some exercise options where you can bring the child - gyms with childcare, Stroller Strides, etc.

Getting a job isn't going to get you any more energy, by the way -- it will only deplete it further.

I think you've got to find a way to get more sleep and more rest, and then find things you want to do and you will meet other women who like those things to, and that's where the natural friendships will come. None of this is to discount how tough it is to be a SAHM to a kid under 2, though.  it will get better.[/quote]

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