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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People seriously hate their in laws this much? They are usually left alone, to literally die. Why can't they stay with you all? [/quote]

We aren't talking about illness or an inability to care for herself. Mil just said she wants to spend several MONTHS at a time here.

Caring for a parent in crisis or bc you invited the person is one thing- a pushy in law announcing she intends to live in our home for months is quite another. [b]Of course, this would be no problem if she were a pleasant, helpful person or one who minded her own business[/b]. She's none of those things. She snoops when visiting us, requested access to our personal calendars, and expects to be waited on hand and foot at no expense of her own.

It's a deal breaker for me. But how to share this with dh?[/quote]

Here is the crux of this whole thread- this isn't an issue of anything other than not wanting to spend time with inlaws that are difficult- there are plenty of people who move closer to their families or whose parents move closer to their kids after retirement where it is welcomed, just as there are plenty who think they need to "lay down the law" on this before even getting married. To me that seems hard to do, you can't predict the future and if a parent really needed help or care I can't imagine pointing to a promise my spouse and I made when all of that was just an abstract idea in our 20s and turn away DH's mom if that's something that he wanted to do.[/quote]

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