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[quote=Anonymous]Well, OP, you may end up with that "perfect" fulfilling love that you crave, or you may not. You have to decide whether the chance is worth it.

My husband faced a similar situation when he was in his early 30s and married for a decade. He left the marriage, realizing that he would never be "in love" with his wife, blah blah blah. He thought it would be easy to find love, and that the kids were young enough to adjust.

Took him nearly 15 years--years of bad relationships, shared custody, financial difficulties--before he found a fulfilling relationship, with me. During that time, he did a shit ton of growing and thinking and learning.

The funny thing is that I think if he had done all that while he was married he'd still be married, and relatively happy--certainly a better relationship with his kids.

Your feelings are normal, and I for one am not going to demonize them. But I caution you to think very, very hard about whether you are rewriting history, as a PP says, and how much this recent affair has led you to believe that fulfillment lies with another man. Fulfillment only lies in yourself, and the rest may or may not follow.

for me, I personally would not leave a stable marriage with kids unless I knew I would be happier alone, with all that such a life entails, than with my spouse. Because that is the baseline reality--you may find true love, but you also may have a series of lonely disappointments. 
Good luck. [/quote]

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