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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, thank you for being honest. W/yourself. Who really cares if anyone on here judges or berates you? None of us on here is perfect + honestly, we ALL have made mistakes in the name of love thus we ALL have our own crosses to bear as well.

I say, as long as you remain married to this man, you will always be selling yourself short in life. Sure, you were very vulnerable when you married him and I totally get the whole "comfort" thing regarding why you stayed w/him. However, you shouldn't punish yourself for the rest of your life just over one mistake.

I understand you have a child together, but that shouldn't keep you from living the life you deserve to live.

What you are craving is passion and yes, after awhile marriages tend to lose some of this, but your marriage never had it to begin w/.

Your husband does not sound like a bad man, he just doesn't sound like the right man for YOU. And no amount of counseling will magically make you fall helplessly in love w/him. I don't know any therapists who can sprinkle "Fairy Dust" unto people to make that magic happen.

Life is too short to settle for 2nd best OP.
You need to live life to its fullest extent and only you know the best way to start.

GL.[/quote]

It's a bit late for this advice. She is already married. (Are you, PP?) This is the sermon someone should have given OP on the night before her wedding, not now.

OP, you made a mistake when you married your DH, but you want others to pay the price while you go about "living life to its fullest extent." Why do you deserve that when you are the one who made the bad decision in the first place?

Once you have kids, you can't put your own needs first. You want to pursue happiness in life -- at the expense of your child's happiness? I can't understand that.

The boat has sailed, OP. You're stuck with your life, or a parallel bad life if you jump ship now and try to "find true happiness" with a married man. In fact, your life will be even worse then.

I agree with a PP who said you need to grow up. You're not an adolescent imagining the perfect life before you. It's not going to happen for you no matter which way you slice it. It's hard to accept that life is less than perfect but that's how it is for most people. Accepting that is part of being an adult. Life is about responsibilities and the little day to day things more than it is about "living life to the fullest" as if you were on TV.[/quote]

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