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[quote=Anonymous]OP, There are a couple Asian moms at our bus stop.  Honestly, I've tried to do more than small talk but they tend to be very formal around me and it sort of put me off.  I'm not sure if it's a culture thing or they just don't want anything more to do with me.  I haven't reached out and invited either of them for coffee or lunch or whatever, but IMO I sort of think they need to do that.  Other's have - and I've also done that when I sensed that the other person wanted to keep talking.  but when you start small talk (like you mentioned in your OP) and don't try to engage in more discussion (answer my questions with one-word or 2 word answers; don't ask any probing questions yourself; don't share more information about yourself) it puts a lot on the other person to initiate something.

I'm rambling, but I guess what I'm saying is if I'm small talking with Mom A and she shares more detailed information, asks probing questions, etc. it's easier for me to say, "hey, do you have a minute to get coffee at my house so we can finish this convo up?" While with Mom B, it's like pulling teeth to get more than "they're fin."  "Oh yes, love school" [pause, pause, pause] "no, haven't gone to that gym."  [pause, pause, pause] I'm not going to say let's finish this over coffee at my house.

Not sure if you are this way as well, as I'm not implying that all Asians are, but the 2 I have met at our bus stop were like this.  So, I'm giving you my honest answer as to why we haven't developed a friendship.  [/quote]

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