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[quote=Anonymous]First of all, this is a difficult area to make friends.  Some people are terribly competitive (read: insecure) and don't have their own merits to stand on.

OP, since you asked.  We live close in, and there are tons of Asians, especially Chinese and Korean.  I think a lot of people feel uncomfortable with certain cultures believing that their issues/rules/whatever you want to call them - hold true here. They often do not.  Sometimes you need to adapt.

Sometimes your rules don't apply to everyone else, or anyone else.  Sometimes, even though you come from a culture that is accustomed to dictatorship, huge class disparity, and blatant wrong doings - you chose to go elsewhere to avoid all that - and you can't look a gift horse in the mouth.  KWIM?

Your culture's government mandates one child per family and advocates drowning baby girls.  So now, who does that government think all of those grown boys are going to marry?  Because we ALL KNOW about the cultural class distinctions and pecking order, to that cultures dismay - and inevitable demise. Chinese consider themselves "superior", then "Koreans", etc.

I get it, "world dominance....blah, blah, blah..." But doesn't that sound a bit paranoid and excessive to you?  That bullsh*t doesn't fly here.

For example, one of my good friends is a great parent, from a great, successful hardworking family.  They happen to be white.  One of the new, Chinese moms in our school started talking trash about this wonderful family.  Now that Chinese family wonders why everyone hates them.  Because, the one you were talking trash about is a great family!  What did you *think* was going to happen?  "Oh let me be friends with this woman who talks trash about people she doesn't even know?"

Good luck with that!

You can choose to get along, or you can choose to alienate.  I suspect you are making a genuine effort.  I suspect you do not  point out everyone's faults, or look for faults that are not there.  I suppose you know when to keep your mouth shut.  That is a start. 
  
I fully realize the last two paragraphs could pertain to anyone, but a newly arrived mom should do her best to keep things positive, lest she be known as a troublemaker.  And who wants a troublemaker around?  I guess my point is, be careful who you alienate.

To answer your question, in our community, I think people are a bit wary of the two groups I mention in particular.  They come from such extreme living situations, and there is a Tiger Mom legacy that the Asians think is secret.  It's just not.

Being a Tiger Mom may be a label you detest, but it is alive and well unless you disprove it yourself.

I realize this will get flamed, but you asked.  I gave you my perspective based on my community.  I won't say where for obvious reasons, but I happen to know there are many moms nodding in agreement right now, even if they are reluctant to come forward.

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