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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think my spouse may be a NPD.  Everything is usually all about him, and anything that goes wrong is always my fault.  I made a terrible decision and had a baby with him.  He wanted this baby SO bad.  I gave birth almost 4 weeks ago, and he has held the baby exactly 3 times for photos, and has not helped with care at all.  I'm doing absolutely everything, and the baby has medical problems that require a lot of doctor visits at Children's Hospital.

To make things worse, he came home 3 days ago with a puppy.  He said that since the baby came  I don't pay enough attention to him and he needs the puppy for "his mental sanity" since I've abandoned his needs.  I am so sleep deprived, and still keeping up with all the household chores and I just don't know what to do.  My mother (who unfortunately is not in the area and can't come to help) says she thinks he's a narcissist and jealous over the new baby - but he's the one that wanted the baby so bad, not me.  He comes home and just plays with the puppy outside until he goes to bed and doesn't even look at the baby or provide any help at all and doesn't interact with me anymore except for taking the dinner I made and eating it away fro me.  Does it sound like he is a narcissist?  Or maybe he's just going through some freak out stage at being a new and first time father?  He also tells me that he wishes he could not work and just stay at home and do nothing all day long like I do (I'm thinking I should cut my maternity leave short because he's resenting me for it)  Maybe he's just jealous and will get over it?  Maybe it will get better?  Has anyone experienced this with their partner?  We are not young, we are both in our 30's.  I absolutely love DC an am very happy to have him.  I just feel like my spouse had PPD or something.  Can anyone give any advice?[/quote]

man oh man....this guy seems like a piece of work. I fortunately have a amazing husband who is dead opposite from yours. From MY perspective, life is way too short to spend it with assholes. I'm a very proud and bull headed person, so without a doubt I'd kick his ass to the curb. If I'm going to essentially be a single parent, might as well dump the dead weight overboard. One less person to clean up after.[/quote]

I'm just praying that it's some sort of phase - mid-life-crisis-shit compounded with becoming a father.  I can't see myself trying to leave now with a newborn.  We are not exactly well off, we are renting a basement apartment and are living paycheck to paycheck.  Neither of us make that much money at our jobs - at least for the DC area.  Financially I don't know how I would leave.  Does anyone think maybe this is just a phase he is going through and he will snap back into a real person?[/quote]

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