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[quote=Anonymous]If I were considerably younger (i.e. your age), I probably would have a second, and also for the main reason you suggested, so that they would have each other when we parents are old and then gone, and having a close family relation.  However, saying that, we are very happy with one, and have decided it's not worth giving up the life we have now.  Now that she is 6, we are no longer stressed out all the time, we can take her traveling anywhere, feel financially able to sign her up for any classes or camps that we want to, and will be able to go all her sporting events, with very little conflict, and all the while be 2 full-time working parents.

Our lives would be extremely stressful and less enjoyable if we had to juggle a second child's schedule, arranging playdates, handling school issues, handling potential medical issues, manage sibling relations, etc.  Of course we would manage, but quality of life for us parents would definitely be diminished, despite our immeasureable love for the second child.  I am accepting that our temperments would not do particularly well with more to handle.  To compensate, we are focused on helping our child to have regular playdates, we buy an extra ticket to most events so that she can bring a friend, we try to help her to know her cousins and extended family, etc.  The aftercare program at her school has been a wonderful vehicle too for her to have other children of differing ages to play with, so she's definitely not lacking for social interaction with other kids.

Hope you find a clear resolution to your anxiety about this, and find the answer that's right for your family!   Regret is wasted energy.  We all make the best decisions we can at the time we are presented with the options.  [/quote]

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