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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Schedule sex every Monday and Thursday. Done.[/quote]

Twice in one week?! And, and, what if she's having her period?! Even if there are guests? What if she feels bloated? What if one of the kids can't sleep? And the pressure of scheduled sex will be such a turn off. What if she falls asleep on the couch first - won't she have trouble getting back to sleep if we have sex. And, and, and...

It's as if you don't give a shit about THE RULES. [/quote]

I'm a wife who isn't really in the mood under most of the conditions you've listed as rules, and yeah, being woken up for sex sucks when you've got kids and have to get up for work in the morning. So, from the perspective of some one who sees where she's coming from, but also sympathizes with you because it also sucks to just not have sex for extended periods of time - I vote for scheduled sex. You can coordinate to get the kids to bed exactly on time, have that be your take-out night of the week so there's less clean up to do after dinner, hop in the shower, and enjoy your sexy time before it starts eating into your REM cycles.

I don't think scheduled sex is unsexy - you can still have spontaneous sex when you feel like it, it's just that the designated days are the guaranteed minimum and you can plan on having those be more "ideal" rather than rushed quickies. Also, all the prep you end up doing that night to make it happen makes it feel like dating again. And knowing it's your night, there's flirting, extra light caresses as you pass by during the evening routine. It's hot, if you let it be. The best turn on is having sex - having it makes you want to do it again. I bet your wife is just out of the habit, and just a few times of good sex, when you're both clean and well rested, will generally up her drive a bit so the other stuff is less bothersome when conditions aren't perfect. [/quote]

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