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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I love how mothers know what the teen male mind is thinking....[/quote]

I have never been a male teenager. However, I would not assume that all male teenagers think the same thing. Also, I do know what some male teenagers do -- specifically, the many male teenagers I have known, in my life. Have all male teenagers I have known in my life pressured girls to have sex and said and done anything to get off? No, they haven't. In fact, many of them have explicitly not done this.

Which is a good thing, because people who pressure people to have sex and say and do anything to get off are, at best, potential rapists. At worst, they are actual rapists.[/quote]

There is pressure, and there is pressure.  The pressure I am talking about is progressing until the girl gives some indication that it is too far, either through physical actions (moving the hand), or by saying no.  That is neither a rapist nor a potential rapist. And it is quite common.

Right or wrong, that is the reality.  [b]I want my daughter to understand that.[/b]  The safest thing to do is to define what you will do -- in your mind -- and stick with it and communicate it (at the appropriate time).  [/quote]

I hope that you want your son to understand that too, if you have one.

The model where the boy keeps going until the girl says no is bad, wrong, and dangerous. Boys and girls both need to know that consent means saying or demonstrating yes; not saying no does not constitute consent. Girls need to know that it's ok to say or demonstrate yes, if that's how they feel. And boys need to know that it's ok to say or demonstrate no, if that's how they feel. [/quote]

I do not have a son.  If I did, the advice would be to not pressure -- safest thing to do is to enjoy the person.  Focus on communication; talking, laughing...fun.  [/quote]

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