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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are a stay at home mom but your examples are how you were treated at your last job.   How are you treated now that makes you think you are not likeable?[/quote]

OP here.  I guess it's just that I always feel overlooked as a potential friend by other moms, and I also don't get invited to things.[/quote]

Where are you seeing other moms -- in the rush of preschool pick up or somewhere more "leisurely" like a church group or playground? Anyplace that is rushed is not a great place to make friends. As for more leisurely places, do you go up to other moms and talk or wait for them to approach? I would go up and talk. Especially since you say you have a serious look, other moms may not want to bother you. Also when you are out -- do you have your phone out the whole time? It's really common now when people feel uncomfortable to just whip out a phone. Problem then is that people feel like you don't want to be bothered -- either your engrossed in texting or maybe you're even responding to work emails and don't want to chat. As for a serious look -- have you tried making eye contact and smiling? [/quote]

OP here.  I have an 18 month old.  I mainly socialize with other moms in playgroups and other events, playgrounds, and classes such as music, gym classes, etc.  So these are all pretty leisurely places to meet people.  My child and I are out of the house every day, and I am always excited to meet other moms and try to make friends.  However, I'm not very successful at making friends.  I always go up to moms and chat and try to get to know them.  I think I am a friendly person and I love getting to know others.  It's just that I feel always overlooked, that people don't want to be friends with me.  I am not invited to playdates or other activities.  I don't have a smart phone so the phone thing is not an issue.

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I didn't start clicking with other moms AT ALL until one particular class, my son and I were always the first or second to arrive. Naturally, if I arrived early, and only one or two other moms were there early as well, we were all more open to talking a little more to each other. Previously, I was always the outsider, it seemed like everybody else knew each other already, so my attempts at friendliness seemed to be brushed away. But when you're in with a very small group (like arriving a little early), I think people are more likely to not brush you off. Worked for me, at least. [/quote]

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