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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm in the same boat, OP. My sister and her kids go to the same beach house every year.   This year we rented house very near (a quick walk) so the cousins could play together during the day (they're all around the same age). We all had a wonderful time… I thought. We babysat so they could go out without the kids one night.  The kids bounced out of bed  excited to see their cousins every day.

Got back home, chatting to my sister about next year.  She says they had a great time, but want to keep the beach house vacation just for family… their family.

I was [b]cheerful about it, then hung up and cried[/b].[/quote]

hm. maybe that's part of the problem? Are you a very sensitive person?[/quote]

Maybe? I'm usually pretty low-drama -- but this was important to me.  We grew up with little to no relationship with extended family, and I really want things to be different for this generation. I don't think it can happen unless we both want it, though. Makes me pretty sad. We live far from each other, so I thought this would be a great opportunity. I'm not angry, but I was terribly disappointed.[/quote]

Two houses is a great compromise, but if your sister and her family are used to a low-key vacation and don't want to think about socializing daily then I could understand that. Even though I love my family, spending every day together would drain me.[/quote]

Yes, I think this probably is it. I ain't mad. Just sad. She's said "we love you and love spending time with you and want to vacation with you another time, just not that week!" And I acted upbeat like I believed her, but I know it won't happen. They're a large, busy family, and always too busy to do stuff. I think the relationship just means more to me. But I'll keep trying. [/quote]

Did you and your sister work together to rent the close-by houses?

If they are busy throughout the year, they might just treasure the one week they have to focus on just the kids and the parents. My husband used to travel a lot, and we really valued time with just our own family.
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Sort of -- she helped me get a discount by renting through the same agency that she did  -- but I chose the unit.

I'm sure that what you've said is true. It's not that they don't love us, it's that they prefer the time for their own family. It just makes me sad because it means there's zero time for us.[/quote]

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