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[quote=Anonymous]OP needs to decide if these values are HER OWN values or she just wants a moral code taught to her daughter (even if it isn't what OP lives/believes).  It's one thing to say you want your daughter (and/or sons) to learn right from wrong and have moral standards and all, but it's another thing to put the kids in a position where they are learning things that are inconsistent with how parents live and what they believe.

It is a big mistake to put your child in a group that provides moral structure that you, op, do not support.  You will feel uncomfortable in the family situations b/c it will be assumed that you agree with the same teachings.  And you should assume that in any group, the leaders are usually the more stident believers.  So, think about whether you just want the results (i.e. moral standards) vs. whether you can live with the implementation (i.e. having your child taught beliefs that you may not 100% agree with).

How much of the teachings do you agree with and how much are you willing to overlook (if you don't agree with it)?  These are the reasons we didn't send our children to catholic school and we aren't staying in cub scouts -- b/c although we like the overall investment in teaching character (for school) or outdoors skills (for scouts), we just can't endure the hypocrisy that it would be for us to pretend that we agree with all the teachings -- when we don't.  I'm not saying that either catholic school or scouts are bad places -- not at all -- I went to catholic school for 11 years and DH was a boy scout all the way through -- but we feel there are enough teachings/requirements that are contrary to our beliefs today that we can't just pretend to support it just to get the benefits of the programs (and we do believe there are benefits).

So, maybe you look at programs like this as a substitute for bringing your children up in a church --- which may backfire on you if your own beliefs do not match up.  Or maybe these programs would be a good fit for you (i.e. AHG and AWANA) if you actually do hold these beliefs.  Only you know the answer to this.[/quote]

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