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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I cannot imagine what you are dealing with BUT I will tell you this.

Get some goddamn balls and talk to your wife.  1) go to counseling if you want to stay married or 2) divorce.  If your wide has no clue how serious you are about an affair or divorce TELLING HER might help your cause.

Why cant you people talk to one another.  If it doesnt change then leave.  I cannot stand these affair threads.  You all are spineless.[/quote]

OP here.  Talking it out again is good in theory, but does it actually work?  I mean, are there honestly people who have low libidos that had no idea their spouse was deeply unhappy with 1-2x per month sex despite multpile conversations in the past about it?  Do you really want your spouse telling you "I will divorce you if you won't have more sex"?  I can't imagine her low drive is going to naturally respond to the pressure of sex vs. divorce.

I am not trying to be flippant, she knows I am deeply unhappy about it, but probably doesn't realize I am seriously considering divorce.  But if you know of someone who actually talked their way into a better sexual relationship, I am all ears.[/quote]

Going to a neutral third party will help you understand more about the problem. Right now, all you can see is that you've asked her for more sex, and she doesn't want to have it. But, there is probably a lot more behind this than you can (or want to) see. You probably have a larger role in your wife's low libido than you understand, and she can probably do a lot more to meet your needs. [/quote]

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