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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]College prof here --- Parents who help with college papers are preventing their kids from learning.  Parents who contact professors or administrators on their child's behalf get a reputation as nutbags.  When we have to write a letter of recommendation for your child for grad school or a job, we are not inclined to describe them as mature, self-starters, energetic go-getters, etc.[/quote]

[b]I have no problem with parents making sure that the college and professors are providing their child with a high-quality education, especially since they are paying for it, in many cases! You wouldn't say the same about a shareholder checking in on a business that they've invested in, would you?[/quote][/b]

^^^?So a college professor is kind enough to come on this forum and tell you truthfully how such behavior appears to them and affects their impression of your child.  But you want to argue anyway?  Clearly you don't get it.  You just don't.

If a child can't advocate for themselves by college, that is a skill they need to develop, not a reason for parents to step in.  Please pay close attention at the parent orientation when your kid goes to college -- when they talk about the need to let go, they're talking directly to you.[/quote]

A college professor coming on to the DCUM message board is at least as creepy as a mom on the DC's fb account.  There is some serious dysfunction on this thread.  Maybe best to leave it to the parents to decide without judging.[/quote]

Did you ever think that maybe that college professor is a PARENT and is simply offering their advice on this topic since they have experience…?! I do not see how a college professor posting on DCUM is anywhere close to creepy, especially since we don't know anything else about this person. However,  a parent posting on the school FB account for your child is stepping over the line and highly inappropriate. If you continue to coddle your child he/she will not only be seen as a "momma's boy/girl", but also (and even worse) immature  and incapable. Is that really how you want your child to start their future? Even if I feel that everyone should be free to parent how they feel is appropriate, every decision we make should be in the best interests of our children. This is their life, not ours…[/quote]

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