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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He will think that you are flighty, not ready to date, or possibly worse.  [/quote]

This is exactly what I'm afraid of and exactly what I don't want.

I just don't want to hurt his feelings[/quote]

I hope it works out for you. It does always seem likes it's either feast or famine when dating.  I think the main question I still have is if you have "great" chemistry with guy#1, what was going to be your plan if things went to the next level? You would have been in the situation of sleeping with more than one guy.  If you knew all along that #1 had the best LTR potential, do you think subconsciously you avoided having the exclusive talk because you weren't ready to settle down after the long draught?

If this really was an aha moment and not a matter  of guy 1 being second choice because guy 2 is emotionally/LTR unavailable, then you know the right thing to do is break it off with guy 2 with no guarantees it will work out with guy 1.  I was dating several guys when I met DH.  But deep down I think I knew about at the two month mark right before the exclusive talk, it didn't make sense to hook up with guys coming out the woodwork, because they weren't going to be the one.  Why create drama?

It's not clear how far in you are with guy #1.  If it's been the at least 6-8 weeks, you are going to need to address this.  Not that you can't date other people, because you can, but because you clearly don't seem to want to settle down with him or you would have been asking him if he is seeing other people and trying to move towards exclusive if you wanted that.  Best advice I can give is put the shoe on the other foot.  If you saw guy #1 with a woman a young Kate Beckinsale/Sofia Vergara/Giselle (pick your ego bruising worst) look alike laughing over drinks/buzzed  giving off a vibe that she hadn't been holding out quite as long as you have ....and your friends are there with you, what would you be looking for to feel less hurt/assured that the person really wanted to be in a relationship with you and not a matter of the woman you saw him with not wanting to settle down with him?[/quote]

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