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[quote=Anonymous]NP, I agree it's about insecurity, and I'm a big fan of honest, kind, direct conversations.  I'd say to her "Sis, I notice you bring up the way your child was conceived all.the.time.  It really feels like you feel like you have to prove something, but you don't have anything to prove to us, so I'm wondering why you keep bringing this up?  Do you have insecurities about how you conceived, or about your son?  Because finding reasons to drop that into conversation all the time seems strange and very much about being concerned about something."

And see what she says.  If she's outraged and no that's not why, then ask her again why she brings it up all the time?  You don't bring up the sex that you and your DH had to create your kids, why does she bring her process of conception up all the time?

I'm pretty sure she'll either stop saying it or find some other way to vent her insecurity... at which time you can figure out how to have THAT conversation later!

Btw, ITA with whoever said that if she says this in front of your kid, you need to nip that in the bud immediately.  No matter what else she says about why she keeps bringing it up, it should be non-negotiable that if she keeps comparing your kids in front of the kids, you will stop spending time with her.[/quote]

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