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[quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks for all the understanding. It feels much better that I am not the only one and reasonable and that I am not too sensitive in this situation. So it seems like with Chinese culture, the younger person get no respect (for this matter) in the family, I married the Chinese husband so I need to blend in. I get it but I can't help with my own feeling. 
What bothering a lot is since the baby arrive, they visit my house one night a week and this becomes too much to handle sometimes as I still think they are being rude to me in my own house and I am not good to hide my feeling from my expression.

[b]As I don't want to make more tense between me and his family, what can I do to make myself feel better to ignore this issue? Please give me some advice (especially from Cantonese speaking families) that I am not consider rude to them. [/b]

To give you more information, I have done this once and my husband said I was rude. 
We were out with his family and his ex-girlfriend, who came to visit for her short school/vacation here from HK, I wasn't happy to go but forced to. It is already awkward enough to be with his ex and now with the group that I don't speak the same language. As usual, they all spoke in Cantonese the whole time and my husband did nothing to engage me into the conversation. I felt very left out and upset. After I finished my food, I was playing food prep with my left over and discard. Ok, I admit I was childish to do this but I got nothing to do and was so bored. When we were back home, he was update and told me how rude I was. I tried to explain why I did what I did, he still thought I was rude so since then I did nothing to improve the situation and I am still pissed to this moment (lol).

I think if you want respect from other, you should show your respect first regardless where you are from. I made this effort at the beginning by trying to learn Cantonese but I lost the respect for them from what feel from them and obviously it makes me feel un-easy but it is not bothering my husband or my ILs.

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