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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thank you 22:07 PP for understanding my feeling. It is about courtesy and respect. Also thank you 22:21 PP for showing me another side of this matter. [b]It is very true that it it is not fair for everyone else to accommodate 1 person.[/b] Also thank to those learning Cantonese advice.

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OP, you're being too nice.  Your in-laws are being rude.  They must know they are being rude and exclusionary, especially if they know English well enough to hold conversations.

Yes, you can practice Cantonese but that will be a long road.  I would try being assertive when you're with them.  You can ask them to repeat what they said in English when they slip back into Cantonese.  You can ask why they repeatedly speak in Cantonese when they know you don't understand.

There's no easy answer to this.  Either you're silent and just take it or you stand up for yourself (politely) and make a few waves.

My brother married into an Asian family and they never do this.  Your extended family are doing this as a power play, not just b/c it's convenient to speak in their native language.[/quote]

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