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[quote=Anonymous][quote]Among friends and acquaintances, it's polite to speak the common language, but within a family, the family's first language is easy, homey, relaxing, and means family to them. I get this. And when you're no longer a guest, but taken into the family, they stop catering to you and stop speaking as much English around you, because you're family now. It can be a compliment, in a way, even though it's annoying. And they do use it to exclude, too. [/quote] What I don't get is why you would treat friends and acquaintances with more courtesy than you would your family. When you treat someone like OP is being treated, you aren't drawing them into the 'circle' of family. You're keeping them outside. Saying this is just 'Asian' culture isn't at all true. It may be true for some Asian families but not for my family or the others that I know. We have our cross cultural issues but this isn't one of them. [/quote]
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