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[quote=Anonymous]I'm American, and my Vietnamese in-laws speak mostly Vietnamese in front of me. I know how left out you can feel. The solution is to have your husband remember he is the bridge between your cultures/languages, and he should translate for you so you can join in the fun and conversations. If you can learn to understand some basic words, it helps, too.

Among friends and acquaintances, it's polite to speak the common language, but within a family, the family's first language is easy, homey, relaxing, and means family to them. I get this.

And when you're no longer a guest, but taken into the family, they stop catering to you and stop speaking as much English around you, because you're family now. It can be a compliment, in a way, even though it's annoying. And they do use it to exclude, too.

It's just a downside of marrying into a family whose language you don't speak.

Keep in mind, when cultures mix, that each side can believe their way is the right way, and even worse, never imagine that a reasonable and nice person would do things a different way. [/quote]

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