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[quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks a lot for the insightful replies. I was just trying to get perspective about the whole situation, being a first time mom trying out day care for the first time.

Just to clear a few points: Baby is a very social, outgoing baby and in fact that is why we thought of daycare (rather than nanny) so that she would have other kids to play with. She is also not a crier by nature - feed her, change her diaper, and stay within eye sight and she is cool. Till last month it didnt even matter which human being was within eye sight. Only in the last 4 weeks has she focused on wanting me around. And even then she just wants to see me, not be picked up. In fact I have to run after her to pick her up and feed her!

Wrt sleep training: we tried CIO and gave up as cries kept escalating even after 45 minutes. She was not exhausting herself to sleep but whipping herself into more of a frenzy. And that is also when we realized that its cool to watch on Super Nanny but CIO was definitely not something we cared for. We are in the process of implementing the no-cry sleep solution. I have been putting her down drowsy (after 10 minutes of rocking) but awake since February but we dont seem to have advanced to a stage where she sleeps by herself. Some of it could be because Baby and I have been traveling extensively the past few months. The upside is that she has visited several countries and many many cities and been held by and taken care off by many loving family and non-family peeps. And not a tear out of her.

I have no illusions that my kid is perfect -- sleep has been an issue pretty much since day one. She insisted on sleeping on my/hubby's chest the first two months. Absolutely INSISTED. Things got better in the third month and she slept in the co-sleeper. Then the 4th month regression hit and she pretty much stopped napping completely (night sleep was ok). Nap time got better in the 5th month then the 6 month regression hit and she stopped sleeping at night (i.e. was up every hour). Up until a month ago I had not slept for 3 hours at a stretch since she was born. By looking for a older, more experienced home day care provider I was really hoping that all three of us (hubby, DCP and I) would work together to gradually set things right now that she was napping and sleeping 4-5 hour stretches at night, albeit after rocking. And she is in teh middle of a wonder week right now too, poor kid.

What is galling to me about the situation is the brevity of effort on the part of DCP. I would have thought that someone with so much experience would know that it takes more than 5 days for babies to adjust. On the other hand you guys may be right that its better to be out of the bad situation asap. There were some red flags from day one that I tried to ignore -- DCP scolded me for a) letting Baby use pacifier, b) not having introduced enough variety of vegetables (most of which were not in season in the continent I was living in till 3 weeks ago), c) for not having introduced dairy (I want to wait since my brother is lactose intolerant....and I dont see the reason to hurry and potentially overwhelm Baby's digestive system anyway), d) wanting to feed her wheat cereal and not oatmeal, e) not wanting to place her in a walker (our doc said babies can get bow legs if placed in walkers for too long before their legs have the strength to walk), g) for sleeping with her in our room, h) for letting Baby play with my keys while I was talking with DCP etc etc. I took it in the spirit that it was well meaning advice given a little gruffly.

Cest la vie. I hope I can learn a lot from this interlude and better serve my kids needs.

PS: We do need the money from my job, and I do belong to a profession where any break = permanent break. I was lucky even to swing the 8 months and of those, 4 months were working remotely.

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