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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm shocked. Am I the only female that couldn't, and didn't, wait the standard 6 weeks to have sex? [/quote]

I waited exactly the 6 weeks, after I got clearance from my doctor.  I don't get all these wives who selfishly bail on the marriage once they have a kid. [/quote]

Bc oftentimes it isn't for selfish reasons. It's hormones, it's feeling touched-out having a baby on you (and your boob) all day, it's being exhausted, it's having a birth-related injury that needs to heal, it's feeling self-conscious from the body changes of pregnancy and childbirth, it's &lt;gasp&gt; other women having many experiences that differ from your own that also feel equally valid. Congrats on wanting to get right back to it -- glad that happened for you -- but don't knock other women by calling them selfish bc they have a harder road returning to their former drive. [/quote]

Everything's not all about you though, or the baby. You forget about the husband at your own peril. Look at that baby and think: Do I want to raise him in a broken home? Eventually men who don't have sex in their marriage leave it. [/quote]

Fortunately, I didn't marry a dirtbag, and the year or so postpartum doesn't equate to a sexless marriage forever. We made a decision to have a child together and he got it that I went through physical, hormonal and emotional changes he would never have to experience in order for us to build our family. We got back to it, eventually, but not bc I felt pressured or fearful that my husband would stray. I'm sorry if you didn't have/ offer the same support in your relationship. [/quote]

OR, he discreetly had it elsewhere and you live in your bubble.[/quote]

I LOVE hearing stories about spouses learning their DH cheated, especially when they couldn't fathom that.  She had him "under control" and he was "very understanding" about infrequent and boring sex.  "He has learned to live without blowjobs because he loves me."  DUMB.[/quote]

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