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[quote=Anonymous]>>I make an effort to tell all the babies how cute they are because I remember how important it was to me growing up with random people complimented me, but it surprises me how few people do this. <<

Actually, I deliberately try to check myself and *not* comment only on the looks of a girl baby (trying to avoid gender bias). I usually tell people how alert, engaged, etc their child looks.

As for jealousy, I had a verrrrry difficult infant -- colicky, reflux, barely slept, super introverted, the whole 9 yards. Was I jealous of my friends who could go to a freaking movie and dinner?! You bet! Could I hang out with them? No way, we were slaves to Weissbluth.

My second kid is super easy and we can live our lives more. I still love my friends, btw. And I called them on the phone lots. I just couldn't hang out with them and explained our situation to them. Lots thought we were just neurotic helicopter parents. Unless you have a super difficult baby you have noooo idea.

But as for cuteness? Hmmm. I thought then and think now that my intense daughter is brilliant and beautiful, in fact I thought then and think now that she's got loads of emotional intelligence and is just fabulous at communicating her needs (which involve lots of attention and nurturing).

Also, people go through phases in life. Give your friend a break. Be open to her needs -- if she needs a breather or some distance, don't take it personally. Just try again in a few months.[/quote]

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