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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]To 20:55 -- I appreciate your good intentions in going a bit in the other direction. And yet I know from experience it's a bad habit to get into.  What you're really doing is reflexively diminishing yourself (or your daughter) to help someone else feel better.  Is this a habit you want your daughter to emulate?  How sad would it be if she picked up the message she should feel badly about her best qualities!

I got great advice once -- "'Thank you' is a complete sentence."  When someone admires your daughter's hair, why not just say, "Thank you" and then ask the other person a question about her or her child?   [/quote]

I'm 20:55, and yes, I'm completely aware of it being an issue which is why I was posting about it. It's not something I'm conscious of when I do it so it's a hard thing to stop doing but I'm working on it! We don't all come out learning everything. It's my one really bad Mommy thing I have to try to get past. In any case, I do tell her about 1000 times a day how cute she is so I do have that part down! I think part of the problem is that when you grew up self-conscious it's in your nature to not be as able to accept compliments. I often can just say "Thank you", but not every time. Also, it's not that often a problem because I find most Moms of babies don't comment on other people's babies. I make an effort to tell all the babies how cute they are because I remember how important it was to me growing up with random people complimented me, but it surprises me how few people do this.

Although, now I can tell which Moms have only boys by how they comment or which Moms have older daughters. The best thing about having a girl is how sometimes a Mom and her teenage girl will come over and coo at the baby and I see how their bond is, like it reminds them of themselves to see a Mom with a little daughter. [/quote]

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