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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He's known my kids a lot longer than he's known her. And fwiw, he spends almost all his time with her. These are not frequent get togethers. Perhaps she perceives it as him prioritizing them over her but I don't think anyone else would. It would be like if he went to play golf a couple times a year and she was jealous.[/quote]

This first sentence speaks volumes. She is his WIFE. You're saying that because he's known your kids longer, they rank higher than his WIFE?[/quote]

Not the OP, but it's to about rank. OP is correct, he's known the kids longer than her, and they are KIDS and see him as an uncle. I would not want a husband who would toss relationships with children for me - that would have been a deal breaker re: marriage. Why? Because you don't abandon children, even if you are in the supportive uncle role.

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He is not abandoning her children.  Give me a break![/quote]

But the man's new wife is clearly pushing that direction. The problem is that he would have a hard time continuing his relationship with the kids but not their mother.

To chime in on some previous posts:

I don't find it weird at all that he has a close bond with his friends kids. That's what friends do for each other.  However...it does speak to my next point...

From OP posts, there is (to me) the sense of unrequited love for her friend. In a typical friend relationship, we seemlessly modify the dynamic based on other relationships. In this case, the sense of loss OP seems to feel is much more in line with the breakup of a romantic relationship. Not a rip on OP at all. The heart feels what it feels...[/quote]

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