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[quote=Anonymous]OP: Ultimately, you're doing what's best for your baby, right?  Baby needs sleep, baby won't get it at MIL's, so you don't stay at MIL's.  All else is distraction.  Hold that in your head while she whines and stand firm.  You are doing what is best for your baby.  Do not feel guilty.

Now, as for the broader dynamic, things can be emotionally touchy with new grandparents.  It's a big familial transition, so your MIL is probably freaking out about all kinds of things.  There's no reason to cater to it, though.  You and DH figure out what's best for you, what's fair to your family members, and do it.  No amount of letting MIL stay over and spending a lot of time with her at her house is going to quell the whining, right?  So stop trying to end the whining.  Catering to her may actually make it worse, as she sees it gets her somewhere.  It's time to draw some boundaries.

Long term, maybe when your child is no longer a baby but older s/he could do an overnight with MIL, though with the whole not interacting with the baby business, she may not be a suitable candidate.  It's just something to consider.  Meanwhile, though, realize that her whining is all insecurity and jealousy and bluster.  Hopefully it will pass a bit after your child's first birthday.[/quote]

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