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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm curious about why a woman who is 40+ and professionally established would so prefer a never-married over a divorced man that she would bother to discount the divorced guy?[/quote]

OP again. They are open to divorced men. But other than online, they can't seem to meet them in real life.  This seems to be a common situation in my circles so I thought I'd ask.  In their twenties and early thirties they were focused on careers but I think they thought they would meet someone along the way. Yet suddenly they're 37, 41, 43 and no more prospects than five years ago.  I'm sure some of them would move out west if they met the right guy but now they have careers on the east coast so starting anew in Seattle or Denver with only the hopes that the odds are better doesn't seem like the best idea.[/quote]

Well as a 42 y.o. divorced dad I can tell you I don't hang out in bars or clubs when I don't have my kid (I equally co-parent with my exW).  I pursue activities that I like and I've met women in all sorts of places.  I've never done an activity with the intent of trying to meet someone - I'm a pretty social guy and it just happens that i can talk to women.  I've had more women (single women & single moms) approach me when I've had the kid in tow - at restaurants, museums, super market, book stores, shops, etc.

I know some divorced dads and those in my circle - high income, very well educated, kid/family focused, we don't waste time chasing young tail - most of us date women 35+ and I personally prefer to date single moms because they know the lifestyle and challenges of being a single parent.

My advice to your friends - 1) be open.  That means body language and how they simply are in public.  Women think they're approachable but often times they give off the vibe of 'don't bother me'. 2) be confident not desperate. I can't tell you how sexy that is and a guy worth pursuing has suitors - and I will purse attractive and confident women, not wall flowers.  3).don't be afraid to approach a guy (after that, it's the guys job to chase) but there's nothing to lose - I've had women strike up conversations when I'm having dinner by myself (if I'm eating at the bar).  4)  throw the long check list out the window as it does more harm than good. Of course, we all have our deal breakers but really, but they need to be open minded and they just might be pleasantly surprised.[/quote]

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