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[quote=Anonymous]A couple of things:

Don't date people for 6 months unless you are reasonably sure they feel similarly about you as you do about them.

'Reasonably sure' the way I am saying it means:

[list]Not grilling them about it, or asking for constant reassurance (if you feel the need to do that, it means one of two things - either that you do need to get more emotional support/validation in your life (from expanding your relationships with friends/family members, or from building up your self-reliance, possibly with the help of a professional) or  that deep down you know they don't feel the way you do, but you are hoping they will say differently[/list]

[list]Continuing to date others unless/until they too express that they want to be exclusive[/list]

[/list]If the care/consideration they give you is roughly equal to what you give them[/list]

[/list]If they want to see you with roughly the same frequency that you want to see them. [/list]

Cut trivial things like receiving flowers from your mind. I know since you haven't yet, you've built it up to be a big deal in your mind, but really, it just means the guy has $30 and a phone. That's all. Look more at whether you're getting better at picking your partners over time.

Bear in mind that until you marry (or settle into a non-marriage, lifetime relationship) sooner or later, they ALL stop calling. Or you stop calling them. That's just how it works. It doesn't mean you're pathetic, or unlovable, etc. All those other single people out there are exactly like you. They still haven't found anyone that they wanted to settle down with, who wanted to settle down with them, either. [/quote]

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