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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP what exactly is their issue with your wife? If they don't like her just because she is from a different culture, it is plain stupid and they need to get over it. 
 you shouldn't have to choose btw your parents nd wife. Your wife needs to understand and accept them as well. Breaking ties with family is stupid, self centered & not easy as people make it out to be. There can be a happy medium but it will take time and patience. Be steady when it comes to your wife but loving and patient with your parents as well, even if they do not respond the way you would like them to. [b]They will come around eventually.[/b] [/quote]

No they won't. They have demonstrated for years that they are to come first. They have cut off their own child and his children because the situation is unsatisfactory to them. They told him "goodbye"

This isn't a situation that a sit-down and some hugs all around are going to fix. Patience from OP? He has been [too] patient with their nonsense since before this marriage, and it sounds like throughout his dating history.

OP needs to prioritize what needs his attention. #1 his own wife and children. His marriage is in crisis. [/quote]

So parents are like toilet tissue that you just use and throw? Did OP just fall out of a fountain? Don't forget that his parents had to strive and make sacrifices for OP do become who he is today. the least he can do is maintain a good relationship with them in their old age.  Agreed their ideas are antiquated, but asking him to cutoff all ties with his parents is ridiculous. If divorce and disowning people is the only way to work through issues, we are a messed up society.
   OP has to put his ego aside and work with his parents separately. [/quote]

He is not cutting them off. They are cutting HIM off. And there was nothing from OP that indicated he wronged them so deeply to warrant their behavior. They simply dislike his life partner and have decided he needs to choose.

Am I missing something? Do you see how his own mother can justify cutting off her son and grandkids? Because I don't.

Also I agree he can maintain a relationship with them IF they are willing to hear him say, "Mom, Dad I love and respect you but my priority is DW and DC and they must be treated with respect" and follow through with improving their behavior toward DW.

Curious how you think OP should approach his parents at this point.[/quote]

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